Forgiveness is for you, not them.

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photo(19)Forgiveness – a beautiful, soul-lightening word that is much easier to say than to do.

So why is it so imperative to forgive?

Toxic feelings of resentment and hatred are unhealthy! To harbor these feelings will guarantee a negative impact on your health.

Forgiveness is a decision to free yourself from the chains of someone’s negative actions. By choosing not to forgive, you are allowing a force to control you and deter you away from a positive life. It may seem impossible to let go of something that has hurt you, but, if you hold on to the negativity, you are granting resentment to have a grip on your life. Focus on the positive. By doing so, you may actually feel empathy for the other person and understand what exactly caused their actions. From first-hand experience, I will tell you that this is not an easy task! Even the thought of forgiving someone that may have done you wrong can make you angry. But, ask yourself – how is anger helping your situation? I promise you that it’s not in the lines for improvement and it’s most likely not affecting the other person. Instead, the anger and stress that coincides with building resentment is horrible for your health and psyche.

“Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. If you dwell on hurtful eventsphoto(20) or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. Your life might become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present. You might become depressed or anxious.” (Mayo Clinic)

Let it go. Free yourself from the grip of bitterness, anger, and resentment. Focus on your worth and capabilities. Never let someone control your happiness.

The weight lifted from your shoulders will feel better than anger ever did. You are not responsible for another person’s actions. Don’t let them be responsible for yours.

Enjoy your life and every blessing in it.

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