Take A Piece of Your Baggage With You for Experience and Let the Rest Go!

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Learning how to cope and move on to live a successful, meaningful life can be extremely difficult after traumas or serious difficulties have occurred. One thing you must always remember is that what has happened shouldn’t hold you back from living the life you want or deserve.

photo(1)Before you even attempt to move on to the next stage in your life, it’s imperative to acknowledge and accept what has happened in your past. If you don’t focus on this, you are destined to bring negative baggage with you wherever you go.

“Let go … and allow yourself to embrace what is waiting for you right at your feet.”

– Dr. Steve Maraboli

Begin embarking on a journey towards freedom from your past by:


  • Accept that you have had a distressing experience and it is natural to react to it. Denying or refusing to do so can hinder recovery.
  • Remind yourself daily that your reactions are normal and that you can and are coping; don’t be angry with yourself for being upset.
  • Avoid overusing alcohol or drugs to cope.
  • Avoid making any major decisions or big life changes, as distress can affect your judgement.
  • Do not block out thoughts of the event. Gradually confronting it will help you move on from the experience.
  • Don’t ‘bottle up’ your feelings. Talking or writing about the trauma helps deal with it, even though this may feel uncomfortable.
  • Maintain a normal routine. Keep busy, structure your day and try not to unnecessarily avoid certain activities or places.
  • Rest, exercise regularly, relax and become involved with a group or hobby. These activities help you to settle and readjust.
  • If the trauma stirs up other memories or feelings from past, or unrelated stressful events, try to separate the feelings and deal with the experiences individually.
  • Finally, tell friends and family about your needs and reactions. Their support will help speed up recovery.

Seek someone professionally licensed to help you cope if you:

  • Cannot handle the intense feelings or physical sensations
  • Feel numb, empty and have not recovered after around three to four weeks
  • Continue to sleep badly and/or have nightmares
  • Have no one to share your feelings with
  • Find relationships are suffering due to the trauma
  • Are becoming accident prone
  • Are increasing your alcohol or drug intake.

*Improving Recovery from Trauma

It NEVER hurts to talk to someone. How you feel now can be improved and should not be an indication of how you’ll feel in the coming days. If you carry thoughts composed of negative and depressive elements, you’re setting yourself up to block improvement. Positive thoughts, although the hardest to maintain, are crucial to an optimistic future.

You have to tell yourself, “I can and will get past this. I am better than anything negative thrown at me and I can handle it.” The darkest days do seem to last the longest, while the wonderfully bright seem to fly by.

No matter what you’ve experienced, you’ll always take a piece of it with you. But, if you recover in a healthy fashion and build yourself from what you’ve learned. The pieces that come along for the ride will be the tools you can use to improve your life. They allow you to know what you want and what you don’t, and with that experience, you’re able to more smoothly maneuver through the other obstacles you encounter.

Thoughts, comments, questions? Email me, JennKaysen@gmail.com

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