Teaching Your Children To Be Safe Without Making Them Scared

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 Written by Caroline Kastner
 In today’s society, there are risks everywhere. From driving on the roads to passing strangers on the street, you don’t know when something unexpected might happen. As the world changes, so does our education on how we teach our children about possible dangers in life. If you’re wanting to teach your children about the dangers in life, but you don’t want to make them feel afraid, here’s an expert guide on how to teach your children to be safe without making them scared of the world around them. Let’s take a look now on how you can do this.
Best Ways To Teach Your Children About Dangerous Situations
1. Identify Different Concerns You Have

It’s a good idea to tell your children about concerns you have. You don’t have to be too abrupt, but give them an idea of what you’re concerned about. Here’s some ways you can talk to your kids about your concerns.

  • “When you play beside the road, I worry about you”
  • “When you go to the park near the baby store by yourself while I shop I get concerned, even though I can still see you”
  • “When you talk to people online I feel very concerned”

Starting the conversion like this will allow the lines of communication to open so you can express why you’re concerned.


2. Invite Them To Ask Why You Have Concerns

After your children know you have concerns, ask them why they may feel you have these concerns for them. This will help them focus on you and your conversation along with getting them thinking about why you may be feeling this way. They may have an idea as to why you’re feeling this way, or they may not. Either way you can answer these concerns like this:
  • “I worry about you playing beside the road because a car might hit you”
  • “I worry about you going to the park by yourself because a stranger my take you away”
  • “I worry about you when you talk to people online because you don’t know them and they might hurt you”


3. Take Time To Solve The Concerns Together

After our children recognise and understand your fears, it’s then time to work on solving the problem together. This can be done by asking them what you both can do so you know they’re safe. This is all about compromising and coming up with an alternative solution that both of you can agree on. For example:

  • “How about we play inside the yard instead but you can still play with the ball”
  • “How about I accompany you to the park with your friends but keep a distance away”
  • “How about I check-up who you’re talking to, to make sure they’re safe to talk to”

Compromising with your children will be effective for many reasons. These include:

  • It shows your children you believe in them and their capacity to generate new answers to challenging situations.
  • It shows them that any fears, when talked about, can be overcome with creative and logical solutions.
  • They learn different boundaries and are more likely to initiate them.


4. Provide Comfort When Needed and Model What You Say

If you feel you’ve crossed a line and your child becomes fearful, don’t be afraid to comfort them. Talk to them about the emotions they’re feeling and how important they are to you. Tell them that by following these rules they won’t have problems and they will be safe.

You also need to mirror your words with actions. If you don’t want them to play alongside the road, don’t you be alongside the road. If you do the opposite of what you say, it will cause confusion for them.



Talking about the dangers in the world doesn’t have to be frightening for children. By taking the time to understand how to talk to them, you’ll be able to teach your children to be safe without worrying about making them scared. So are you ready to talk about your child’s safety with them?

Written by Caroline Kastner:

Caroline Kastner is a passionate mother who wants to keep children safe in the world. She writes about her different experiences in the world and different advice on children safety matters. She enjoys playing with her children and enjoys blogging for different websites. She hopes to make more people aware about how to make children safe.


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